Parents Tammy and Tony Reveal Family Law Pitfalls
Parents Tammy and Tony speak out to reveal for others the potential pitfalls of our Family Law system after being trapped in unnecessary litigation.
There is no easy or nice way to put this, as the pitfalls were caused by dishonest attorneys seeking to prolong the litigation, turn a divorce into an unnecessary custody fight, and to drain the family financially and emotionally.
This strategy known only to the attorneys would have left this couple without the ability to co-parent together and without the time and financial means to give their son what he really needs. He needs them available for him and peacefully working together.
There is no argument that Tammy and Tony both wanted what was best for their son, and for the purpose of this show we’ll call him “Junior.” Even though they were struggling and having a hard time communicating, they never envisioned destroying each other. What actually took place will shock you.
They never fathomed their own attorneys would give such poor advice and cause them to do harm to each other, in ways that were unnecessary and that went against their nature and what they wanted.
Fortunately, Tony was able to see the deception that was leading to increased stress and risk for them as a family, and that would likely jeopardize his rights as a father. Separately and with no knowledge of what Tony was experiencing and realizing, Tammy came to My Advocate Center through a referral from a friend. She was able to talk to an attorney for a second opinion about her situation, and realized that not only was she getting poor advice, she was being guided to make their conflict worse. As a mother struggling to overcome a painful injury and disability, this was the last thing she needed.
Please listen and share what you learn here, and ask families caught in conflict to pause, take a step back and consider alternatives to what goes on in many divorces and child custody disputes.
Identities are being shielded here for privacy and to allow this family time to heal and recover from what they were put through in this legal matter. The good news is that they were able to take a time-out long enough to compare notes, to reach a more peaceful common ground, and decided to use their experience to help others. They are not, however, out of the woods. Tammy needs a leg up to recover from the suffering caused in this case and a chance to recover financially from what appear to be unnecessary losses.
My Advocate Center invites law schools to study this case and to help students understand what fiduciary duty failures look like in real family law cases.
James O’Brien/Pro Advocate Radio
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Deb Beacham/My Advocate Center
Founder, Executive Director
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